HOW IT IS CORRECT TO BE IN A CEMETERY ...

And these rules must be followed by every visitor.

A mistake, ignoring or not knowing these rules, can lead to sad consequences, which are sometimes very difficult to fix.

When planning to visit a cemetery, it is important to properly prepare for the visit.

First of all, pay attention to your clothes and shoes. The color scheme of clothing for visiting the cemetery is usually black. White clothes are also allowed. If there are no such colors in your wardrobe, then try not to dress brightly - give preference to clothes in muted tones - the dead do not like bright and variegated colors.

You should be wearing pants or a long skirt so that your legs are completely covered. Wearing shorts or a mini skirt is not allowed!

In addition, you should not wear flip-flops, slippers, or other open shoes. Better to give preference to shoes, sneakers or other closed shoes without a heel. It is unacceptable to wear high-heeled shoes for a visit to the cemetery.

If for some reason it is not convenient to walk in closed shoes, you can take a change of shoes with you. In extreme cases, it is permissible to put shoe covers or plastic bags on your feet, which will then be immediately thrown into the trash can.

Why is it important? Cemetery soil, dust from graves and paths between them - all this carries "dead energy". Getting on the body of a living person, dead energy is superimposed on the living one. This usually leads to various ailments and painful conditions.

According to statistics, the legs most often suffer - fatigue appears, heaviness occurs, congestion with impaired blood circulation and lymph flow, swelling increases, varicose veins develop, etc. etc.

Pay attention to your head. Since ancient times, when visiting the cemetery, it was customary to tie the hair with a scarf. Hair tends to fall out. Having fallen on cemetery ground, your hair, like any other biomaterial, can attract various negativity to you. Therefore, do not brush your hair in the cemetery.

Also, one should not spit on the territory of the cemetery and it is not recommended to go to the toilet. If you are really "impatient", it is better to go out and do it outside the cemetery. Public toilets located in the cemetery should also not be visited. Toilets should be located outside the burial area.

It is also important to know that in cemetery toilets dark specialists can throw off other people's illnesses, negative programs and troubles on visitors. Thus, after visiting such a toilet, you can receive an unexpected "gift" for yourself.

It is important to understand that dead energy is not only found underground and in graves. It is distributed everywhere within the cemetery fence, and if there is no fence or its integrity is violated, then this energy is also present outside the cemetery.

Many cemeteries have water sources - columns, wells or taps. The water collected in them should only be used for cleaning, watering flowers and plants at the grave. You should not drink ’ne water and wash your face with it - for this purpose, you should bring water from home.

While in the cemetery, walk along special paths or paths. Never step on graves, step over or jump over them. This is not only disliked by the inhabitants of the world of the dead, but also unacceptable for the world of the living. In addition, the spirit of a restless person can follow you on the trail you left - this will also not lead to anything good.

Cemeteries are sacred places where the bodies of the departed rest. Even according to the laws of pagan states, tombs have always been considered sacred and inviolable. While on the territory of the cemetery, it is necessary to behave with respect towards the deceased and with moderation in relation to the expression of emotions. Do not be overly emotional.

Avoid laughing and crying. Suffering and groaning are undesirable, since these emotions can cause the formation of a communication channel with the deceased, and the deceased can take a relative who is killing him with him.

According to the rules of conduct for Orthodox Christians, having come to the grave of the deceased, one should light a candle (preferably a church one) and perform a litiya (intensified prayer). You can read special memorial prayers and an akathist for the repose of the dead. Then you should be silent, remembering the deceased.

Saint John Chrysostom wrote: "Let us try, as much as possible, to help the departed, instead of tears, instead of sobbing, instead of magnificent tombs - with our prayers, alms and offerings for them, so that in this way they and us will receive the promised blessings"

The most valuable and important thing that can be done for the departed is prayer for them. The deceased does not need a coffin or a monument - all this is a tribute to traditions. His eternally living soul feels a great need for our constant prayer, since she herself cannot do this. That is why prayer for a deceased loved one, performed at home and at the grave of the deceased, is very important.

Commemoration in the Church provides special assistance to the deceased. Therefore, before visiting the grave of a deceased relative, one of his relatives is advised to go to church and submit a note with the name of the deceased for commemoration at the altar.

Best of all, if it will be a commemoration at the proskomedia - in this case, during the service for the deceased, a particle is removed from a special prosphora, and then, as a sign of washing away his sins, it will be lowered into the Chalice with the Holy Gifts.

You should not eat at the grave or in the cemetery, as particles of dead dust and dead energy can get inside. It is also recommended to pour vodka on the grave of the deceased - this insults his memory. The custom to leave a piece of bread, a glass of vodka and sweets on the grave "for the deceased" is an echo of paganism. You should not leave food in the cemetery, it is better to give it to a beggar or a hungry person.

During a visit, in addition to commemorating a loved one, it is sometimes necessary to put things in order at his grave. When cleaning, it is important to remember that the dead do not like it when things or what belongs to them are taken from the cemetery. Therefore, when removing garbage, picking off dried grass and fallen leaves, on the grave, explain to the deceased that you are doing this only for the purpose of maintaining cleanliness.

And it is very important - if you took something from the grave, put something back. When tidying up and removing trash, visitors usually leave flowers, or some kind of treat for the deceased. Taking the broken vase from the grave, replace it with a new one.

Usually, to put things in order at the grave of a loved one, people take with them some rags and other equipment. It is important to know and always remember: the rags that you use to clean the cemetery should not be your personal old and now unnecessary things for you, or the things of your loved ones !!!

Never wash or wipe monuments with old T-shirts, underpants or socks, as well as any other personal belongings, or their scraps if they belong to living people. For this purpose, it is better to purchase a set of disposable rags in the store, which can be thrown into the trash after cleaning.

This law also applies to other items brought from home. You should not take a broom to restore order to the cemetery, even an old and no longer needed one, which you used to clean your apartment, house, or the area near your home. It is better to buy a new broom in the store specifically for cleaning the cemetery, and leave it near the grave.

It is generally not recommended to take things for the cemetery from an apartment or house - it is better to buy vases for flowers, rags, dishes, etc. for these purposes in a store. It is allowed to bring the deceased from home only those things that only he used during his lifetime. For example, a favorite cup from which he drank (only he and no one else!), Or a plate from which he liked to eat (only he and no one else!) Can be brought and left at the grave.

Take back all the things that you brought with you. If it is used rags, napkins and other rubbish, throw it into a trash bin. Do not drop or leave objects that may contain your biological material on dead ground.

The things that were in the cemetery should never be taken home. Leave all the trash that was removed from the grave in the graveyard trash. If something needs to be taken for some special reason (for example, something needs to be repaired in different conditions), leave something instead of this thing, and then be sure to bring it back.

The photograph of the deceased should never be taken home from the cemetery - the best thing is to bury it in the grave.

Sometimes a visitor may accidentally drop keys on the cemetery ground, or any other object. According to the laws of the cemetery, a thing that falls on dead ground belongs to the dead. Therefore, if you are not sorry for this thing, leave it there or throw it into the trash can on the territory. If you need this thing, then picking it up and taking it with you should put something else instead. It could be candy, cookies, or some other treat.

It is definitely never, under any circumstances, recommended to approach the territory of the cemetery and go inside pregnant women, nursing mothers, women with babies and women on critical days.

A pregnant woman should not visit the cemetery for any purpose and for any reason, even:

To honor the memory of deceased loved ones, including anniversaries and days of remembrance;

In order to participate in the funeral procession, even if a very close and beloved person is being buried, and one really wants to see him off on his last journey;

For the purpose of performing any rituals or ceremonies;

In order to visit the church, which is located on the territory of the cemetery;

Not on any memorial day, not on a church holiday, not even on a big church holiday (on Easter, Trinity, etc.).

The protective energy field of a pregnant woman is divided into two - one part is used for herself and her protection, the other is used to protect the baby. Thus, a pregnant woman has two energy fields at the energy level. Both of these fields are easily vulnerable - one of them is temporarily weakened, while the other is still being formed.

Therefore, any negative impact will have a more devastating effect on a pregnant woman than on any other person. Also, the expectant mother shares any negative with her baby, which can lead to serious, sometimes even critical consequences for the child.

Pregnant women are very sensitive to negative energy. On the territory of the cemetery, the following dangers can lie in wait for them:

Dead energy everywhere;

Essences, beings from a parallel world, restless spirits and souls;

Specialists who possess knowledge and use this knowledge to harm others are sorcerers, sorceresses, magicians.

Dark specialists can wait for their prey for a long time. If their goal is the "living", not the dead, then they need a person who breaks the rules. And it doesn't matter - the rules will be deliberately violated, or because of not knowing - such a violator will still become a victim. What can happen in this case? Anything. The evil eye, damage, disease ...

For example, a specialist - a magician or a sorcerer - has the task of saving the life of a terminally ill person. On the territory of the cemetery, he can exchange the life of his "patient" for the life of an unborn child, unnoticed by a pregnant woman. Ultimately, the patient will recover, and the unborn child will die in his place ...

After visiting a cemetery, do not bring with your unwashed shoes into your apartment or house the cemetery soil, which may be on the sole or on the sides of the sole. Be sure to take off your shoes to the front door, rinse your shoes thoroughly with clean running water, removing dead soil from them, and then bring your shoes home. This is not difficult to do, especially since by doing this you will save yourself and your loved ones from many possible problems.

If you drove into the territory of the cemetery in your car - do not rush to drive it to the garage - you should definitely go to a specialized car wash and wash off the cemetery soil and dust from the car.

Tools that you used in the cemetery should be rinsed with running water and wiped off. It is not recommended to store it in an apartment.

Of course, this article does not contain all the rules of conduct, but only some of them.

However, the violation of these rules of conduct due to ignorance of these rules, or due to unwillingness to comply with them, out of stubbornness or due to the unwillingness of an atheist-minded person to believe in their effectiveness, does not absolve anyone of responsibility, and then there is a risk that the mistakes will have to be paid for.

It is important to remember that the cemetery is a "temple of the dead", and there are laws.

Jesus called people do not mourn dead. After all, their souls were resurrected in a new life, in a different world. But some people believe in magic and superstitions, various beliefs, adhere to rituals that are very far from the Christian faith.

• You can't often go to the cemetery and walk for a long time between graves and monuments. This is advised by some fortune-tellers and psychics, as well as people far from the true Christian faith. Like, the spirit of death is hovering there, a very bad energy that sucks the strength from the living. Especially this thesis is grabbed by city dwellers who justify their busyness, laziness, forgetfulness, disregard for history and indifference to the memory of deceased ancestors, relatives and friends.

• Pregnant women and young children should not go to funeral and visit the cemetery. In general, those who sincerely and consciously want and are ready to do so should attend the funeral ceremony, memorial requiem and cemetery. It is necessary to visit the graves of deceased loved ones not with despair and with the thought that we are leaving a loved one in the earth, but with the thought that the person must be released to heaven. After all, according to the Christian faith man dies to find a new life

• Coming home with cemeteries, you should thoroughly wash all clothes that have been on you, wipe your shoes and wash. Some even wash their hands at the exit from the cemetery, and when they come home, even before the gate, they thoroughly and thoroughly clean and shake off their shoes and clothes, wash their hands with soap and even hold their shoes over a burning church candle for several minutes.

• Any wound that was received on the territory of the cemetery heals for a long time and a person can die. If fortune-tellers and psychics talk about all sorts of phantoms, the cult of death, the impact of poor energy and the astral planes of the dead, then doctors and sanitary-epidemiologists note about hygiene and disinfection because of the danger of infection.

• You shouldn't take anything with you from the cemetery, even expensive and valuable things. It is forbidden to take home flowers for seedlings (not even from graves, but simply from alleys and flower beds), scarves and towels taken from cross or wreaths... Therefore, you can take on other people's troubles and illnesses. Many people believe that a beautiful bouquet of natural or artificial flowers from a tombstone can be taken not only by a drunkard to sell for 100 grams of vodka, but also by some kind of "grandmother" who will put it in the yard or put it on sale with witchcraft plots to ward off sickness on someone else, to spoil ...

• If you accidentally dropped something in the cemetery, in no case should you pick it up from the ground. This is superstition and prejudice - no need to believe that this way you will prolong your life and avoid illness. Those who practice witchcraft deliberately leave money or a gold thing on the side of the grave. For someone to take and take on other people's misfortunes. What if documents, mobile phone, car keys, bag, glasses fell? It is enough to wipe it with a damp cloth. We are all not eternal, and faith, hope, positive thinking, and a healthy lifestyle will help to continue our years.

• If you were at the graves, and it seemed to you that someone called, then you need to cross yourself three times and say: “My God, save me, the servant of God (state your full name), save and have mercy! Amen!" Don't be afraid of being called to the cemeteries. Nobody is going to take you to the next world. Indeed, on Memorial Week, on Wires, on Parents' Days, here you can not only communicate with deceased ancestors, relatives and friends, but also see many friends - the whole city or village. In addition, old acquaintances, childhood friends, distant relatives, whom you have not seen for many years, may come to their graves ...

• On memorial week any food cannot be taken from the graves, as they are intended for the deceased. The Church believes that donating, including food, Easter cakes, colored eggs and others, is better for the living - the poor, the weak, the poor, the unfortunate people, those who need help. Donations can be brought to the temple, given to beggars.

• A glass of vodka for the dead is placed on the grave, which is covered with a piece of bread. The dead do not need vodka - they need a prayer of permission, the priests say. Some priests note that it is a great sin to remember the dead with vodka. It is the same as condemning his soul to a bitter path and hellish fire. No wonder the old people said that "vodka burns the dead." The tradition of pouring a glass of vodka onto the grave at the feet of the deceased is not Christian either.

• At the cemetery you need to walk only during the day before sunset. Indeed, after sunset and at night, mainly asocial elements go to the cemetery, alcoholics, homeless people, other bad people who do evil to others - thieves of flowers and non-ferrous metals; hooligans, vandals, satanists, sorcerers, sorcerers, black magicians.

When the deceased relatives very often dream, and you wake up from this, then go to church, light a candle and order a commemoration of your relatives. Think, maybe it’s your conscience gnawing at you. What wrong have you done to them and how can this be corrected? If it's too late to correct something, think about what you can change in your life to become better, happier ... Ask for forgiveness, let go of terrible thoughts and leave only bright memories in your memory ...

The cemetery is a place that connects the world of the living and the dead. It is associated with many different negative prejudices and signs that are common among people. One of the bad omens is the one that explains why a person fell into the cemetery. It is important to understand what such superstition can mean, but if the interpretation is negative, you should not tune in to the worst, as this only aggravates the situation.

Sign to fall into a cemetery

Coming to the cemetery, you should behave as carefully as possible, because if a person stumbles in such a place, then this is a harbinger of some problems. More serious dangers await if you had to fall into the cemetery. In this case, you need to immediately go home, wash yourself with holy water and cross yourself. After that, it is worth reading the prayer "Our Father" three times.

There is another sign in Orthodoxy - the body of a dead man fell in the cemetery. Such an incident is considered a bad sign, indicating that there will be another funeral over the next three months. When, when visiting a cemetery, they fell out of a wallet or pocket, then in no case should they be taken back. Put bills on your grave a relative or a person with the same name, which will be a kind of ransom. Otherwise, financial problems may arise. If a monument or a cross fell on the cemetery for no reason, it means that the soul is not at peace, and it suffers because of unfinished business on earth.

To undo the effect of omens, it is recommended that you wash yourself when you come home, and then perform a ritual. Bake pancakes and take them to the graveyard as a ransom. Come with pancakes to three graves with the same name as yours. Be sure to read the prayer "Our Father". After that, pancakes should be distributed near the church to people who ask for alms. It is important to keep quiet during everything and not talk to anyone.

The dead should be respected

Recently, it has become fashionable to arrange photo shoots in cemeteries, drink alcohol, idly walk among the graves and just do whatever comes to mind. With such frivolous actions, people cause great harm, first of all to themselves. The dead should be respected, and if you just decided to wander aimlessly, then try not to make noise or run. The dead do not like violent manifestations of emotions, and you can offend the feelings of other people who are at that moment on the graves of their deceased relatives.

Nor should you suffer excessively. It often happens that inconsolable relatives begin to go to the grave almost every day and literally bury themselves next to a recently loved one. This absolutely must not be done. It turns out that crying, sobbing and lamentations interfere with your departed loved one. His soul finds no rest. Severe suffering can even lead to the fact that a dead relative can even take someone from the family with him, and such cases occur quite often. So try to behave with restraint when visiting cemeteries and let the deceased go, no matter how hard it would be for you to do it.

Prepare for your trip to the cemetery

Pay attention to the shoes first. It should not be open even when it is very hot outside. You have probably heard more than once about what terrible rituals are performed on the ground taken from the grave. In open shoes, you yourself cling to dust and grave soil, and then bring it home, so you should always visit cemeteries only with closed shoes, which must be thoroughly washed upon returning home.

The clothes in which you are going to go to the cemetery should not be bright and defiant. Opt for soothing shades. It is advisable to wear something black or plain.

Now about the hairstyle. Previously, women almost always wore a headdress, regardless of the season. Now this tradition is a thing of the past. However, it is best to go to cemeteries with your head covered or with your hair in a tight bun. The fact is that a huge number of witchcraft rituals are performed using nails and hair.

Hair has a strong energetic connection with the person to whom it belongs. A hair that has fallen by chance in a cemetery can trigger a certain mechanism, which I massively use all sorts of sorcerers and psychics to induce damage.

A hair that has fallen on the grave has a connection with the thoughts of a person, so nightmares can begin to him and just wild thoughts come into his head.

Don't go to graves

When visiting the cemetery, try to walk only along special paths and paths, do not step on graves and wreaths.

Never take old rags and brooms from your home for cleaning graves. Things that have been in the house are charged with the energy of the people who used them. Under no circumstances should you wipe the monuments with the old clothes of living relatives. Do not be stingy, and specially buy cleaning equipment.

Nothing can be taken home. Throw all used napkins, garbage, glasses into a special container located on the territory of the cemetery.

There is often a faucet in the cemetery for cleaning graves. Never wash your face or wash your hands with water from this faucet. Bring water from home for this purpose.

Do not leave any biological waste on graves. If you are "impatient", then in no case should you relieve yourself on abandoned graves. Firstly, this is just an elementary disrespect for the memory of the deceased, and secondly, you can pick up some ailment of a person buried here. Believe it or not.

Visiting the graves of dear people who left our land is a duty of love and a tribute of respect. There are a large number of beliefs that have firmly entered our lives. We are used to bringing food to the cemetery and do not think about the meaning of this ritual. Is it possible to do this and where did the tradition come from? Let's try to answer this question.

Cemetery food - history and meaning

To understand the logic of the ritual, you need to turn to its origins. Our ancestors honored the dead with abundant feasts right at the burial site. At that time, the ritual was called "funeral", the first mention of it was found in the 10th century AD. In addition to mourning and feasting, the ritual even included war games, which were often fatal. When Christianity came to Russia, the ritual lost its meaning, but echoes of pagan traditions have survived to this day.

Among the ancient Slavs, the memorial ceremony included only prayers. However, it is possible to speculate about other sources of food in the cemetery. The trip to the graves for most families at Easter was a long and unsafe journey. Many of them remained in the cemetery until the morning, so they used the food that had been sanctified in the church the day before.

Is it possible to take food to the cemetery

In the old days, funerals with a large amount of food were held for the poor, that is, for the needy. It was believed that they are closest to God, because their prayers for the departed are of greater importance.

Is it possible to remember in the cemetery with food in our time? Believers are sure that the meal should be donated to the homeless and tell them the names of relatives, as our ancestors did. Many priests are convinced that the food for the funeral at the cemetery does not matter if unbelievers come and do not pray for the dead. Therefore, they advise to gather around the true believers and commemorate the departed with them.

What to take from food at the cemetery?

What to take from food to the cemetery is an important and interesting question. Among the main list are the following positions:

• eggs;
• kutya;
• pancakes;
• biscuits;
• candies;
• bread;
• Easter cakes.

Kutia is considered a symbol of eternal life, while sweets like candies signify a wonderful afterlife in paradise. It is not recommended to take meat, sausages and any other meat dishes with you. They can quickly deteriorate and rot, which will create a danger for those people who are going to eat them. The official church is dismissive of alcohol in the cemetery. Drinking vodka from plastic cups is disrespectful and just a pagan rite.

Are food commemorated in the cemetery?

Before going to the cemetery, a person must visit the temple and pass a note with the name of the deceased to the altar. If a person decides, in addition to praying, to remember the deceased with food, it is not advised to put it on the grave. Better to distribute to friends or the poor.

Recently, any commemoration is not complete without meals for the whole family right at the cemetery. This is especially true of Radonitsa - people carry cakes, eggs, sweets, sandwiches and alcohol. The Orthodox Church allows you to have a bite to eat in the cemetery, but you shouldn't turn the memorial into a noisy gathering. This place should remain memorable and quiet. It is impossible to commemorate a person with vodka or other strong drinks either at the grave or at home.

Why is food left in the cemetery?

Relatives of the dead on memorial days are used to taking food to the cemetery. On Easter they leave eggs, sweets and cakes there, not even forgetting about alcohol. Each action must have its own logic. The main reason is that people take it with them in order to eat it right at the grave of a dear person. In this case, you need to remember the deceased, pray for him and taste the sacrificial food.

Can you take treats to the cemetery?

I would like people to have a correct picture of food in the cemetery. There is one situation in which taking food with you is not prohibited, but rather encouraged. Treats are taken in order to distribute them to the poor. Charity is one of the strongest manifestations of virtue.

Many cemeteries have chapels or temples. Nearby you can always find beggars and homeless people who ask for alms. The best way to help them is to give food and feed. For money, they can buy alcohol for themselves, so donating food will simultaneously become an act of kindness and not indulge in sins like drunkenness. You can give both holiday food and groceries bought at the supermarket. The most important requirement is to give a person food sincerely, with the hope that it will save him and bring joy. You can ask the person to pray for the deceased.

Can you leave sweets, cookies, cakes on the grave?

According to the position of the Orthodox Church, it is correct to bring sweets, cookies and other treats to the cemetery. But it is much better if you personally give this food to a hungry person than spread it on the grave. If not picked up quickly, it could go bad.