What is the meaning of life? What is truly valuable in life? What is my Purpose?

These are the main questions we are trying to answer.

Probably people who have come face to face with their death in their lives know the answers to these questions.

Reading about people who learned that they were going to die very soon, or those who experienced clinical death, you learn that they changed their life priorities.

I found some interesting “research” on the Internet. Here is collected data on the topic “what do people regret before they die?” There are thoughts of great sages about this. And this is a list of five true values ​​in the life of every person.

“If it weren’t for my illness, I would never have thought about how wonderful life is.” (Randy Pausch "The Last Lecture") .

1. IDENTITY

Everything in life has its purpose. Every living creature on the planet has its own mission. And each of us has our own role. By realizing our unique talents and abilities, we gain happiness and wealth. The path to our uniqueness and mission lies through our desires and dreams since childhood.

“Individuality is the highest value in the world” (Osho).

One woman (Bronnie Vee) worked for many years in a hospice where her job was to provide relief. state of mind dying patients. From her observations, she found that the most common regret people have before death is the regret that they did not have the courage to live the life that was right for them, and not the life that others expected of them. Her patients regretted that they never realized many of their dreams. And only at the end of the journey did they realize that this was only a consequence of the choice they had made.

Make a list of your talents and abilities, as well as a list of your favorite things to do in which they are expressed. This is how you will find your unique talents. Use them to serve others. To do this, ask yourself as often as possible: “What can I do to help you?(to the world, to the people I come into contact with)?How can I serve?»

Feel free to quit your unloved job! Don't be afraid of poverty, failures and mistakes! Trust yourself and don't worry about the opinions of others. Always believe that God will take care of you. It’s better to take a risk once than to regret later that you lived a dull and mediocre life, “killing yourself” at the same time. unloved job to the detriment of yourself and your loved ones.

Always remember that you are unique and your mission is to give the maximum of your uniqueness to the world. Only then will you find true happiness. This is what God intended.

“Discover your divinity, find your unique talent, and you can create any wealth you want.”(Deepak Chopra).

2. SELF-DISCOVERY AND SPIRITUAL GROWTH

Stop being an animal!..

Of course, we need to satisfy physiological needs, but only in order to develop spiritually. People are mostly chasing material well-being and are concerned primarily with things, and not with the soul. Then, as the primary meaning and purpose human life are to realize that he is a spiritual being and, in fact, he does not need anything material.

“We are not human beings who have spiritual experiences from time to time. We are spiritual beings who have human experiences from time to time."(Deepak Chopra).

Realize God within you. Man is a transitional being from animal to spiritual. And each of us has the resources to make this transition. Practice the “Be” state more often, when you have no thoughts and don’t need anything, when you simply experience life and enjoy its fullness. The state “here and now” is already a spiritual experience.

“There are people among us - not many, but there are - who understand that you need to start saving money for old age while it is far away, so that a certain amount has time to accumulate... So why not at the same time take care of what is more important money, about the soul?( Eugene O'Kelly, Chasing the Fleeing Light »).

And there is no need to improve yourself, you are already perfect, because you are spiritual beings. Engage in self-discovery...

« To know oneself as best as possible in order to be as great as possible for the world is the most important task of man.» (Robin Sharma).

Even when you achieve your goals, true success is not associated with the achievement, but with the changes in consciousness that occur as an inevitable consequence of your progress towards these goals. It's not about achieving goals, but about what happens to you in the process of achieving it.

3. OPENNESS

How often, in the face of death, people regret that they never had the courage to express love to their family and friends! They regret that they often suppressed their emotions and feelings because they were afraid of how others would react. They regret not allowing themselves to be happier. Only at the end of the journey did they realize that being happy or not was a matter of choice. Every moment we choose a reaction to a particular situation, and each time we interpret events in our own way. Be careful! Watch your choice every moment...

« What goes around comes around» (folk wisdom).

What do you need to do to become more open?

1) Give free rein to your emotions and feelings.

Ride the coolest ride and scream to your heart's content; share your feelings with other people; become an optimist - rejoice, laugh, have fun, no matter what.

2) Accept yourself and life as it is.

Allow yourself to be who you are and let events happen on their own. Your task is to dream, move and observe what miracles life brings to you. And if something doesn’t work out the way you wanted, then it will be even better. Just relax and have fun.

« I'm dying and having fun. And I'm going to have fun every day I have» (Randy Pausch "The Last Lecture")

4. LOVE

It’s sad, but many people only in the face of death realize how little love there was in their lives, how little they rejoiced and enjoyed the simple joys of life. The world has presented us with so many miracles! But we're too busy. We cannot take our eyes off our plans and pressing problems to look at these gifts and enjoy them.

“Love is food for the soul. Love is for the soul what food is for the body. Without food the body is weak, without love the soul is weak."(Osho).

Most best way raising a wave of love in your body is gratitude. Start thanking God for everything he gives you every moment: for this food and roof over your head; for this communication; for this clear sky; for everything you see and receive. And when you catch yourself getting irritated, immediately ask yourself: “ Why should I be grateful now? The answer will come from the heart, and believe me, it will inspire you.

Love is the energy from which the world is woven. Become a missionary of love! Give people compliments; charge everything you touch with love; give more than you receive... and move through life from your heart, not your head. It is this that will tell you the most correct path.

“A path without a heart is never joyful. Just to get there you have to work hard. On the contrary, the path that has a heart is always easy; It doesn't take much effort to love him."(Carlos Castaneda).

5. RELATIONSHIPS

When life passes and in our daily worries we often lose sight of our family and friends, at the end of the journey we will feel devastation, deep sadness and longing...

Spend time with those you love and appreciate as often as possible. They are the most precious thing you have. Always be open to communication and meeting new people, it’s enriching. Give people your attention and admiration as often as possible - it will all come back to you. Help joyfully and selflessly, give and just as joyfully accept gifts from others.

“Bliss is also contagious, like any disease. If you help others be happy, by and large you help yourself be happy."(Osho).

So what will you regret at the end of your journey?

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What is the meaning of life? What is truly valuable in life? What is my Purpose?

Teilhard de Chardin came to the reasonable conclusion that each branch of the evolutionary tree ended with the most intelligent species of that branch, therefore “the history of life is essentially the development of consciousness.” Subsequently, paleontologists discovered the process of encephalization in evolution - a tendency for the brain to increase in size from ancestors to descendants. It seems that natural mechanisms that correct the evolution of living matter in a certain direction have a single goal - self-knowledge of nature. Moreover, nature “sees” the material world through the eyes and mind of living organisms.
Man, with his consciousness, realizes the main function of living matter - not only the development of the material world, but also its knowledge. It is significant that in ancient Greece the study of the laws of harmony of the Universe was considered the prerogative of free citizens. Mechanics and crafts (speaking modern language- technology) they left to the share of slaves and foreigners. In all centuries, the main purpose of man has been realized by rare “people not of this world.” Newton outlived five kings civil war, revolution and restoration of the monarchy, but was busy with science, very far from what was happening around. During two terrible years of plague (1665 - 1666), when about a third of the population of England died, Newton formulated the basis of what he developed throughout his subsequent life.
B. Frankl, considered in the West to be the main expert in the search for the meaning of human life, states: “It is not man who poses the question about the meaning of life - life poses this question to him, and man answers it not with words, but with action.” This is not the meaning that comes from the word “thought”, but the thoughtless life of an animal. Generation after generation of frogs strive to catch tasty mosquitoes, bask in the sun, mate and, leaving offspring, disappear into oblivion without a trace. If the living conditions in the beloved swamp do not change, then the descendants will repeat exactly the same pattern year after year. life cycle. Many who sincerely consider themselves very progressive thinkers, for example A. Nikonov (2005), do not see the main difference between a person and a frog. He recognizes the meaning of human life as purely frog-like: “If you live joylessly, without experiencing any pleasures... then why are you even smoking the sky?” The frog ideology of Nikonov and billions of his like-minded people is an accidental reversion of human evolution, and not a natural result of development.
A. Poincaré (1905) knew from his own experience that “if we more and more want to free a person from material worries, it is so that he can use his won freedom to research and contemplate the truth.” Through people, nature learns about itself. She doesn’t need or care about the rest of people. Reproduction, nutrition, entertainment, other biological needs and the pleasures of satisfying them are not goals, but means by which nature obtains from people what it needs. Reply With quote To quote book

Value is the significance, importance, usefulness and benefit of something. Outwardly, it appears as one of the properties of objects or phenomena. But their usefulness and significance are not inherent in them due to their internal structure, that is, they are not given by nature, they are nothing more than subjective assessments of specific properties involved in the social sphere; they are interested in them and have a need for them. In the Constitution Russian Federation It is written that the highest value is the person himself, his freedom and rights.

Use of the concept of value in various sciences

Depending on what kind of science is studying this phenomenon in society, there are several approaches to its use. So, for example, philosophy considers the concept of value as follows: it is the socio-cultural, personal significance of specific objects. In psychology, value is understood as all those objects of the society surrounding an individual that are valuable to him. This term in in this case is closely related to motivation. But in sociology, values ​​are understood as those concepts that name sets of goals, states, and phenomena that are worthy of people striving for. As you can see, in this case there is a connection with motivation. Moreover, from the point of view of these social sciences, there are the following types and spiritual. The latter are also called eternal values. They are not tangible, but sometimes they have much greater significance for society than all material objects combined. Of course, they have nothing to do with economics. In this science, the concept of value is considered as the cost of objects. At the same time, two types of it are distinguished: consumer and The former represent one or another value for consumers depending on the degree of usefulness of the product or its ability to satisfy human needs, and the latter are valuable because they are suitable for exchange, and the degree of their significance is determined by the ratio that is obtained in an equivalent exchange. That is, the more a person is aware of his dependence on a given object, the higher its value. People living in cities are entirely dependent on cash, since they need them to purchase the most necessary goods, namely food. For rural residents, financial dependence is not as great as in the first case, since they can obtain the products necessary for life regardless of the availability of money, for example, from their own garden.

Different definitions of values

The simplest definition of this concept is the statement that values ​​are all those objects and phenomena that can satisfy human needs. They can be material, that is, tangible, or they can be abstract, like love, happiness, etc. By the way, the set of values ​​that are inherent in a particular person or group is called. Without it, any culture would be meaningless. Here is another definition of value: it is the objective significance of the variety of components (properties and attributes of a particular object or phenomenon) of reality, which are determined by the interests and needs of people. The main thing is that they are necessary for a person. However, value and significance are not always equivalent. After all, the first can be not only positive, but also negative, but value is always positive. What satisfies cannot be negative, although here everything is relative...

Representatives of the Austrian school believe that basic values ​​are a specific amount of goods or benefits that are necessary to satisfy the more human As soon as its dependence on the presence of a given object is realized, the higher its value. In short, the relationship between quantity and need is important here. According to this theory, goods that exist in unlimited quantities, for example, water, air, etc., do not have special significance because they are non-economic. But goods, the quantity of which does not satisfy needs, that is, there are fewer of them than needed, are of real value. This view has both many supporters and opponents who fundamentally disagree with this opinion.

Changeability of values

This philosophical category has a social nature, since it is formed in the process of practice. In this regard, values ​​tend to change over time. What was significant for this society may not be so for the next generation. And we see this from our own experience. If you look back into the past, you will notice that the values ​​of the generations of our parents and ours differ in many ways from each other.

Main types of values

As noted above, the main types of values ​​are material (life-enhancing) and spiritual. The latter give to a person moral satisfaction. The main types of material assets are the simplest goods (housing, food, household items, clothing, etc.) and goods of a higher order (means of production). However, both contribute to the functioning of society, as well as to improving the quality of life of its members. And people need spiritual values ​​for the formation and further development their worldviews, as well as their worldview. They contribute to the spiritual enrichment of the individual.

The role of values ​​in the life of society

This category, in addition to representing some significance for society, also plays a certain role. For example, a person’s mastery of various values ​​contributes to the acquisition of social experience, as a result of which he becomes involved in culture, and this, in turn, affects the formation of his personality. Another important role of values ​​in society is that a person strives to create new goods, while preserving old ones that already exist. In addition, the value of thoughts, actions, and various things is expressed in how important they are for the process of social development, that is, the progress of society. And on personal level- human development and self-improvement.

Classification

There are several classifications. For example, according to it, material and spiritual values ​​are distinguished. But according to their significance, the latter are false and true. Classification is also carried out according to areas of activity, depending on their carrier, and according to the time of action. According to the first, they distinguish between economic, religious and aesthetic, the second - universal, group and personal values, and the third - eternal, long-term, short-term and momentary. In principle, there are other classifications, but they are too narrow.

Material and spiritual values

We have already talked about the first ones above; everything is clear with them. These are all the material goods that surround us, which make our life possible. As for the spiritual, they are components inner world people. And the initial categories here are good and evil. The former contribute to happiness, and the latter - everything that leads to destruction and is the cause of discontent and misfortune. Spiritual ones are true values. However, to be such, they must coincide with significance.

Religious and aesthetic values

Religion is based on unconditional faith in God, and it does not require any proof. Values ​​in this area are guidelines in the lives of believers, which are determined by the norms and motives of their actions and behavior in general. And aesthetic values ​​are everything that gives a person pleasure. They are directly related to the concept of “beauty”. They are associated with creativity, with art. Beauty is the main category of aesthetic value. Creative people They devote their lives to creating beauty, not only for themselves, but also for others, wishing by this to bring true joy, delight, and admiration to others.

Personal values

Each person has his own personal orientation. And they have different people may be fundamentally different. What is significant in the eyes of one may not be valuable to another. For example, classical music, which brings lovers of this genre into a state of ecstasy, may seem boring and uninteresting to someone. Personal values ​​are greatly influenced by such factors as upbringing, education, social circle, environment etc. Of course, the family has the most powerful influence on the individual. This is the environment in which a person begins his primary development. He receives his first idea of ​​values ​​in his family (group values), but with age he may accept some of them and reject others.

The following types of values ​​are considered personal:

• those that are components of the meaning of human life;
• the most common semantic formations that are based on reflexes;
• beliefs that relate to desirable behavior or the completion of something;
• objects and phenomena to which the individual has a weakness or is simply not indifferent;
• what is important to every person and what he considers his property.

These are the types of personal values.

A new approach to defining values

Values ​​are opinions (beliefs). Some scientists think so. According to them, these are biased and cold ideas. But when they begin to activate, they mix with feelings, and at the same time receive a certain color. Others believe that the main values ​​are the goals that people strive for - equality, freedom, welfare. It is also a way of behavior that contributes to the achievement of these goals: mercy, empathy, honesty, etc. According to the same theory, true values ​​should act as certain standards guiding the assessment or choice of people, actions and events.

Life values ​​are categories of moral and material aspects that are leading in the choice of life strategy, paths of achievement and orientation in the semantic space. In many ways, it is values ​​that determine a person’s ability to make decisions, and also incline his activities in a certain direction.

The presence of stress factors, problematic situations and other troubles can force a person to change their positions or begin to make efforts to defend their point of view. We can say that all the difficulties encountered along the way test a person for the strength of his own convictions, making it possible to prove that the selected categories represent exactly life values person, not immediate needs.

What is it

A person’s life values ​​are fate-transforming and fate-realizing factors and directly influence the acceptance of all life decisions. They affect all areas of life, including the highest purpose of the individual and soul, relationships with close and superficially familiar people, and attitude towards material wealth.

The diversity of the space of life values ​​is unique to the same extent that each individual is unique. It is the interweaving of the importance of the relationship to one or another category that allows us to see the individual pattern of the semantic and value space. Most people use immediate impulses to build a life concept, without a deep awareness of their priorities, which work on a subconscious level.

Frequent painful thoughts, the inability to make a choice, to do the right thing, or subsequent reproaches to oneself for a mistake are common consequences of the lack of a clear position. If you increase your level of awareness and thoroughly understand your gradation of values, then you can avoid a significant share of doubts and difficult choices.

The road is made easier by the fact that the path has already been chosen, even if for the sake of a long-term perspective one has to sacrifice temporary comfort. Thus, a person who puts his family first will not have long doubts about how to react to his superiors’ proposal for a six-month business trip in another country, but someone who does not understand what is a priority for him in the context of his entire life may never decide to make fundamental changes or make error.

The determination of the most significant values ​​is influenced by many factors, both the internal structure of the human psyche and external events in the surrounding space. At first, the foundation is laid by personality traits and the educational system - many values ​​have a biological basis (the need for an active or passive lifestyle, the number of contacts, medical care), and are also internalized from the immediate environment at a very early age.

As you grow older, your core values ​​are shaped by your life experiences, personal emotional experiences from certain situations that shape the general attitude towards life. As a result, a unique structure appears that separates important things and events from unimportant ones.

When a person builds his life based on deep, true values, he feels filled with energy and happy. The opposite law also applies - the more life deviates from internal needs, the less happiness there is in it, and dissatisfaction begins to predominate in the emotional background of the individual. It is necessary to decide on your top priorities, while not forgetting that the most harmonious life is one in which all areas are developed. Even if a person determines the importance of two or three values ​​for himself, it is necessary to maintain all the others at the proper level in order to avoid imbalance and disharmony of the individual.

Basic values ​​of human life

Basic values ​​are understood as categories of universal human values ​​that are of undeniable importance for all people, on a planetary scale and at the individual level. Value matters own life, love for any of its manifestations. This leads to concern for the physical and spiritual health, the ability to prioritize and ensure your survival first. In many ways, this most important point is regulated, but only at the physical level; psychological sacrifice is increasingly manifested among people and has a detrimental effect on life and mental state.

As a social being, humans tend to value relationships as well as their quality. The need to be accepted and appreciated contributes to survival and better implementation in life space. Next after the importance of social relationships, or instead of them, can be considered the value of family relationships, including the parental family and building one’s own.

Intimate relationships and romantic manifestations can also be attributed to this point. By developing this category, the value of love for children and the need for their presence appears. Several additional aspects can be realized here at once, for example, the implementation of your social function, purpose, ability to transfer knowledge, etc.

The importance of native places, those where a person was born, grew up, and spent most of his life, can border on patriotism. In the global understanding, the place of our birth and upbringing directly shapes our personality - it is there that we can feel accepted and understood. In your homeland and among people with the same mentality, it is easier to adapt and breathe easier, there is an opportunity to show all your capabilities brighter and more multifaceted. Many cultures have preserved traditions of maintaining connections with their native land, out of an intuitive understanding of the importance of the amount of energy a person receives from their familiar space.

Professional and social activities, realizing oneself as a specialist or achieving new results in one’s hobbies becomes an almost necessary factor in modern world. This touches on what will happen without material support and the desire for development and recognition as the main driving mechanisms of human activity. Such strong factors ultimately force many to prioritize work, resulting in a serious bias in one direction.

Inseparable from the value of work is the value of rest, which allows you to restore resources and switch. During rest, a person can discover a new vision of a past situation, feel the taste of life, and realize impractical but spiritually significant desires. All this ultimately allows you to harmonize the rest of your life.

Examples from life

To understand more clearly how values ​​manifest themselves, it makes sense to consider several examples of each of them. Thus, the value of family and relationships is manifested by care, the ability to come to help and provide it even when it is not directly asked for. A person who devotes time to all the people important in his life clearly values ​​this category. This also includes the ability to always treat people with respect, to be responsive, tolerant and tolerant. The absence of these manifestations can soon destroy any relationship and the person is left alone. Of course, he can sacrifice something like this, directing his energy not to being attentive to others, but to developing his own career or skills, but then the person’s priorities have completely different ideals.

When a person’s main value is material well-being, this manifests itself in constant self-development in his professional field, searching for new opportunities and positions.
A prime example is missing a family dinner or dinner together because of an important meeting or the need to complete overtime work. In pursuit of financial solvency, people may take extra work, arrange freelance work in addition to the main activity, sacrifice working relationships, substituting employees in order to take a privileged position.

When health has deteriorated, then this category comes first among the entire list of values, since otherwise a person cannot function normally, and perhaps even say goodbye to life altogether. In many situations, the need to take care of one’s physical condition arises precisely against the backdrop of problems, but there are people who set this value to themselves as one of the highest, striving to maintain constant well-being. This is manifested in regular examinations, compliance suitable diet And physical activity, undergoing periodic rehabilitation and restorative procedures.

The value of self-development and spirituality may seem like a choice instead of a pilgrimage beach or an esoteric festival; instead of new shoes, psychological training is preferred. Everything that is important to a person requires time and attention, so only awareness will help you plan time in such a way that other areas of life do not suffer.

In order to feel like a full-fledged person and live life to the fullest, you need to be able to see the beauty of the world around you. In addition, it would be useful to make a list of life values ​​that will be an integral part of your life, and in some cases even its meaning. If you have something to live for and something to strive for, life will not seem like a boring, dull existence.
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Main priorities of human self-awareness

Each person has his own basic life values, which are firmly included in his daily life. They are often determined over a fairly long period of time and depend on a person’s lifestyle, his upbringing and environment.
Very often, a person’s life values, the list of which is formed completely unconsciously, change with age, due to changes in priorities or circumstances. Many may not even strive for any specific goal or preference, acquiring inclinations and habits according to their life perception.

In addition, some of the values ​​in life can be determined by the type of desire for the opposite: for example, when a very rich person has a desire to experience the delights of a simple life, and one of the values ​​in the life of a poor person will be the eternal desire to move upward.

Standard list of life values ​​in psychological terms

Psychologists have long studied all aspects of human character, aspirations and goals. The main list includes the following concepts:

• Family life (love, mutual understanding, home comfort, children);
• Professional activity (work, business, status);
• Education;
• Spiritual life (inner peace, faith, spiritual growth);
• Political or social activities (communication, power, career);
• Material well-being;
• Hobbies (friendship, self-development, personal growth);
• Beauty and health.

Many professional psychologists use in their work various materials and teachings that help you determine life values ​​and understand yourself. Courses based on the M. S. Norbekov system are very popular in many countries. Anyone can Norbekova. The material in the classes is presented efficiently and effectively, but at the same time it is very easy to understand.

This real opportunity get to know yourself, discover your inner potential and identify your basic life values. In a short period of time, you can gain self-confidence by defining your life priorities and setting specific goals for yourself.

Already in adolescence, there is an initial understanding of life values, certain priorities to which a person voluntarily seeks to subordinate his own existence. The list of life values ​​is formed as a result of mistakes, trials, environmental conditions, ideas inspired by any circumstances.

What are the life values ​​of a modern person?

It should be understood that having formed certain rules, a person subordinates his further aspirations to them. Therefore from the list existing rules It largely depends on how relationships with people will develop and your career will be built.

If you follow the change ethical standards, you can notice that today’s youth have life values ​​that are strikingly different from the priorities of the older generation.

For example, qualities such as selflessness, patriotism, and a sense of duty are gradually replaced by desire career growth, economic stability, independence, freedom of action and thought. Should we condemn young people for dramatic changes in their thinking?

Change political situation could not go unnoticed. Currently, the formation of personality, and, consequently, aspirations, takes place in accordance with other principles, which are based on commodity-money relations.

However, even if the sphere of priorities lies in the area of ​​economic success, for most people the “eternal” life values ​​are still leading:

• family;
• Love;
• freedom;
• health;
• success.

Naturally, for each person some priorities will be higher. It is their implementation that becomes the basis, both in personal relationships and in a career. For example, if a person values ​​his own health most of all, it is difficult to expect that he will devote all his time to solving professional problems.

A careerist is often unable to appreciate love, since in order to achieve his goal he is able to step over any feeling. A person who prefers freedom is unlikely to bind himself family relationships, since he values ​​his comfort and independence above the responsibilities that arise when starting a family.

Can a person's life values ​​change?

Indeed, is it possible or not to change priorities under the influence of environmental conditions or an internal rethinking of one’s existence?

There was a time when changing a person’s system of life values ​​was considered a betrayal of one’s own ideals. Literature knows many examples when the hero’s internal torment is caused by doubts about the correctness of his aspirations. Is it necessary to punish yourself if the basic values ​​of life begin to seem erroneous?

Such torment is unusual for young people, which sometimes causes hostility on the part of parents. But what right does the older generation have to condemn the morality of modern youth?

In many ways, the basis for inconstancy was laid under the strict guidance of relatives. In addition, no person is able to determine priorities according to at will. A system that significantly influences character is formed solely under the influence of external conditions.

The following are of decisive importance:

• the actions of loved ones whom the teenager has observed since childhood;
• material conditions;
• opportunity for personal development;
• the environment in which personal growth occurs;
• the presence of authorities and a tendency to imitate;
• inability to make independent decisions.

This list can be continued endlessly. Throughout life, factors arise that can change a person’s view of things and, thereby, lead to a change in previously valuable attitudes.

For example, a person who constantly takes care of relatives realizes that constant guardianship hinders their development and conflicts with his own interests. The careerist is clearly aware that the desire to occupy a higher position in the service hierarchy leads to emotional callousness. A freedom-loving individual begins to feel melancholy and spiritual loneliness.

It is necessary to understand that at some stage the most important thing becomes an obstacle, a kind of barrier that limits possibilities.

How to change your vital priorities

The system should not be unchanged; it is necessary to make timely adjustments to make life fulfilling and filled with truly positive events.

To do this, just carefully analyze your emotions:

• You need to understand what is most expensive at the moment, what actions do not lead to feelings of guilt and do not leave unpleasant memories. In this case, values ​​should be placed in gradual descending order;
• This will make it possible to find out what influences a person’s life today, what he strives for, what idea he subordinates his behavior to;
• After this, you should imagine what you really want to achieve? Which list best reflects your dreams? Like last time, it is advisable to write down the values ​​in descending order.
• All that remains is to compare both lists and analyze what values ​​make the dream unattainable. These are the ones that should be changed first.

A person whose top lines on both lists completely coincide is truly happy. We can say that he achieved harmony in his life by intelligently regulating desires with opportunities and making every effort to achieve results.