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How to become stress-resistant and strong as flint? Getting rid of the increased stress of the body will allow you to become more cool, calm, confident and happy. Nothing can knock you down!

If you realize that you are starting to get nervous, you may well take some measures against stress right away. But what? Erik Larssen talks about this in his new book Now! Calm. Control. Deep breath. Let's get started!

How to deal with stress

If you want to get rid of stress, you must first of all believe that it is possible - that you are able to cut off the feeling of stress from your Everyday life. Stress can be dealt with if you so desire.

If a samurai warrior, whose life is in danger, can cope with this, then you can too. If Lise from Trondheim, who has a full-time job, four children and a seriously ill husband, can do it, then you can too. If an athlete can handle it top class, who trained for eight years to run ten seconds in the final of the Olympic 100m, so can you. And here are a few ways that work. Try a few different ones and choose the one that suits you.

Recognize stress

To get rid of stress, it is first important to realize that you really experience it, constantly or periodically. It is impossible to get rid of what is not recognized. Then you will gradually learn to recognize it in advance and be able to think and act in such a way as to minimize or completely eliminate it.

By raising awareness in this way, you are already halfway done.

One thing at a time

The samurai must fight the person in front of him. It is unlikely that he will be lucky if he is worried about other enemies that will attack after this, or about how he will get home.

Once you've prioritized the most important task and started working on it, focus only on that task. Once you're done with it, you can think about the next one. Doing several things at the same time is simply impossible. This is obvious, and at the same time it is difficult to come to terms with this conclusion. But you have to try.

If you manage to think only about what you are doing right now, not only will you be less nervous. The quality of your work will also improve. You will remember everything better important nuances become more creative and be able to recognize opportunities and good solutions more easily.

Think of the worst

If you're nervous about making a mistake, try imagining the worst case scenario. Can you continue to live with this? How will you proceed in such a case? As a rule, it turns out that everything is not so bad. You can very well live with it and move on.

Having weighed the situation in this way, you return to the thought of what you should do. You may be comforted by your newfound knowledge that the worst-case scenario isn't really all that bad.

Do you remember what you were nervous about last week? Or three years ago? As a rule, we experience stress because of the little things. Demand more of yourself, be better, do your best, but don't be nervous.

Planning and design

Stress, procrastination, and order are naturally closely related. After all, you are not nervous about what you have already done - you are worried about what you have not done. You should learn to plan your time and make to-do lists.

Stress arises mainly from the fact that you are not in control of your tasks and activities.

Feelings of lack of control can consume you. You will feel like everything is falling apart. Gradually, this feeling can turn into panic fear. At such times, you need to hold on to something reliable: a to-do list or a daily planner that details all your plans.

Find a role model

Another way to deal with stress in your body is to learn from someone else. A few weeks ago, we accidentally locked our sleeping daughter in the car along with the key. Realizing what a mistake we had made, we stood dumbfounded in front of the car. I said, "It can't be." I felt myself getting stressed. How could such stupidity be allowed?

But I was able to recognize stress: I know what sensations it causes in the body, I know how at that moment panicky thoughts begin to overwhelm you (you behave like a frightened child), and I quickly replaced this sensation with another. I thought of Marius, the Marine I worked with in Bosnia. He impressed me with his ability to remain calm in all situations. And I thought, standing in front of the car and looking at the sleeping, unsuspecting daughter inside, that now I must be a little Marius. As a result, I acted more calmly and gave myself time to think, “What is the best thing I can do right now?”

Yes, there is such a situation. What matters is how you deal with it. Trying to "be Marius" suddenly made things easier.

Marius thought, assessed the situation, took a deep breath and found a well-thought-out solution, taking into account the circumstances. He often smiled, even in situations that seemed stressful to me. And now I have done what Marius did. In fact, of course, the problem was solved simply: I called the car dealer. Unfortunately he didn't have the right key, but he helped us take out window glass and our little daughter was perfectly happy. With or without stress, situations resolve sooner or later. But no stress is better. Be unperturbed.

Breathe deeply

Another useful tool against stress - take two or three deep breaths, just like a samurai warrior or a two-year-old child does. Two-year-olds don't get nervous. Life is what is happening now. They do not think about the past and the future, they "relax the press" and unconsciously use the breath as a tool.

Smile and say to yourself, "I am unperturbed."

Priorities

To be effective, your to-do lists must be in order of priority. Put what matters most first and act accordingly. So you will be less nervous!

If you have a lot to do and you feel like you need to do it all at the same time, then the only reasonable solution is to stop and take a break to soberly assess what things are really important.

Ask yourself, “What is the most important and best thing I can do right now?”

And then just do it, with the confidence that you settled on best result. If this means you'll be late for something, just alert the people concerned and do the most important thing first.

Visualize

Imagine situations in which you would normally get nervous, but this time in your mind movie you should be completely unperturbed. If you're in for a merciless samurai battle, turn on this movie in your head and watch how you successfully move forward, solving one problem at a time and dealing with the difficulties that arise.

You make a list good ideas smile and keep everything under control. It is best if this visualization contains both what you want to feel and what you are going to hear in the situations that await you.

If you want to find inner strength, you must become calmer. A person with inner strength is not nervous. Try it. It's easier than you think.

Our life is full of unforeseen situations that sometimes seriously knock a person out of his usual rhythm. As a result, stress arises, with which many struggle unsuccessfully. But you should never be afraid of it, but you need to learn how to manage it. Stress does not happen only to the dead, and controlled emotions will only benefit a person.

Why is it important to be able to control stress?

Psychologists distinguish two types of stress for human body. The first is negative, which destroys our psyche, the second is positive, giving a shake-up to emotions. And it can often flow from one state to another. For example, jumping into a pool of water from a height is positive stress, while unforeseen situation on the road or anything like that is a negative kind of stress.

A person's resistance to this condition is determined by how he reacts to it. Some stressful situation mobilizes as much as possible and makes you look for reserves of the psyche and body to suppress it. It simply crushes others and makes it impossible to fight.

Internal endurance, composure and complete mobilization of the psyche and spirit are the main qualities of a stress-resistant person. Such people are more likely to have, and are mostly positive people. On the contrary, a person who is very hard tolerant of stress is more prone to feeling unwell and even the development of psychosomatic diseases. And here, not far from the development of depression. Some people who are especially prone to stress use the services of a psychoanalyst and this is bearing fruit. But, besides this, you need to learn to cope with it yourself.

Stress resistance is highly valued among businessmen and high-level managers, because without this quality it is impossible to conduct complex negotiations and conclude serious contracts.

Learning to control stress

• It is necessary to become a professional in the activity in which you are engaged. Then new challenges and tasks will not negatively affect your psyche. Learn to solve difficult problems.
• Endurance and patience. No matter what happened, the main thing is to remain as calm as possible. joining a crowd of screaming and indignant people is the worst thing. The problem can only get worse, and the energy taken away by stress will no longer be left to solve it.
• Remember that all people are different and may behave inappropriately. Therefore, control yourself, but do not let us harm you or your loved ones. Severely stop all attempts to humiliate or insult you without harm to another person. To do this effectively, and become more confident in yourself.
• Frequently arrange unloading for your psyche. For this purpose, trips out of town, fishing, hunting or just a picnic with an overnight stay are best suited. Any psychotherapist will tell you that fresh air, nature and water are an excellent cure for stress.
• Learn oriental breathing techniques. They allow you to control your mind even in the most critical situations. No wonder the Japanese samurai paid them the main attention in their training.
• Create stressful situations for yourself. Of course, you can’t openly start a scandal with someone or something like that. It can be just an acquaintance with a stranger or an unpleasant request for you.
• Write down and analyze all the stressful situations that happen to you. in this way you can learn to always make the right decision.
• Listen to yourself and your mind. Only constant practice will help you become a stress-resistant person.

Everyone has a different level of perception of this state. One can be pissed off by various little things, and the other will be “on the drum” by an earthquake in the city. Initially, a person is inherent in the state of "rabbit stress" when he avoids unpleasant situations. With “bull stress”, a person can already quite tolerably adapt to the situation that has arisen. And the “stress of the lion” allows you to fully mobilize the psychological and physical capabilities of the body.

Stress has become an integral part of life today, especially for people who live in big cities. They are constantly in a state of tension, in an eternal race. Therefore, the question of how to develop stress tolerance visits almost every one of them. Since there are enough difficult situations and events in life, and they appear from time to time. There are circumstances that make you completely reconsider your views on life and life in general beyond recognition.

It may be different unpleasant events. In them, a person begins to experience a huge storm of negative emotions, which, as it seems to him, he will not be able to cope on his own. This makes him unsure own forces As a result, there is apathy and disappointment in life.

Resilient people

But those who quickly come to their senses after the experienced stress and adapt to new life circumstances and conditions. Often help them in this for the development of stress resistance.

But there is no one algorithm of actions for all people (the same). There are certain practices from which each person can choose which method is suitable for him. To be more precise, it is a complex effective exercises. But since the critical stress threshold for each person is different, then the choice of a set must be approached individually.

The article will tell you how to develop stress resistance. It will also describe techniques that help to survive difficult situations. Everyone can choose for himself a certain complex, which will be acceptable to him.

What is stress tolerance?

Stress tolerance involves the adaptation of a person in a critical situation for him. life situation. For example, it can be psychological trauma, threats, tragedies, health problems, in relationships with loved ones, problems at work, material difficulties, and so on. Stress resistance involves the ability to cope with such circumstances and quickly return to a normal state of mind.

In the course of research, it was found that every person can have this quality. After all, it is not something supernatural. If you observe, people often show it. It is very important to understand that people who develop stress resistance in themselves do not become indifferent to suffering and easily survive any difficulties. Pain on emotional level and serious psychological traumas will not go anywhere, just a person will learn to cope with them, experience them less painfully and enter into a normal course.

But such a quality as stress resistance is not an innate trait. You need to know that this is a skill acquired throughout a person's life. This feature implies in general the beliefs, actions, train of thought of a person that he acquires in the process of his development.

Development of the level of stress tolerance

Stress resistance is a whole complex of factors. Based on the results of research, it was determined that the level of resilience often depends on the support and care of the family and the environment of the person. Relationships are important in which a person feels love and a high degree trust. This helps to develop the skill of stress tolerance and the belief that one can cope with many life circumstances.

Help to get enough high level stress resistance factors such as:

• the ability to build life plans and translate them into reality or take steps towards their implementation in order to get as close as possible to the goal;
• self-confidence, a real and objective assessment of one's skills and talents, the correct calculation of one's strengths in any business and undertaking;
• positive problem-solving and communication skills;
• the ability to control your emotions and the flow of feelings.

All of the above qualities can be developed both in combination and separately. This can be done both independently, engaging in self-development, and with the help of the services of a specialist.

How to develop stress resistance? Strategies

You need to be aware that psychological resistance to stress in life is not something one-time, not a condition that can happen once and never happen again. Everyone is different, so everyone reacts differently. The method by which one person can cope with stress will not always help another. For each person, different strategies in the fight should be applied, depending on his character and personality type. The American Psychological Association offers 10 effective methods that help fight stress. They can be used to develop your own strategy for developing resistance to various irritating factors.

How to develop stress resistance in yourself? 10 rules will be presented below.

Crisis is not a problem from which there is no way out

When a person is unable to change the course of the situation and the circumstances that he has to endure, it is necessary to change his attitude and reaction to them. Try to look beyond the framework of the present. One must imagine that the situation will be much better in the future. Thus, subconsciously, a person will begin to pull himself out of the prevailing life circumstances and strive for the goal of improving them. It is important to pay attention to even the smallest details and reasons why the condition improves, and try to return to them more often.

Good relationships with close circle of people

Good relationship with family, friends play not last role In human life. Since if they are trusting, relatives will always be able to both just listen and lend a helping hand if necessary.

So a person becomes more confident in his abilities and a reliable rear. Feeling supported and protected is very important. This increases the level of stress resistance. Also, many psychologists are convinced that participation in various associations, such as adequate religious organizations and interest groups, can really help a person cope with difficulties. Also, by helping other people, a person helps himself.

Set a goal and strive for it

This is very important point. You need to set certain goals. And step by step strive to achieve them. You can do something that brings you at least one step closer to your goal every day. And then, over time, the tasks that seemed simply impossible and huge will become more understandable, and the person himself will not notice how he came to what he so wanted to achieve.

See things in perspective

How to develop stress resistance? It is necessary to look at the current difficult situation as if from the outside and adequately assess it, without giving vent to emotions. Thus, many things will fall into place. A person will be able to see more clearly how to proceed further. Here it is important not to make an elephant out of a fly. And evaluate everything objectively.

Change in life is part of it

Some goals for a certain period of time may not be available for any reason. You shouldn't panic because of this. You need to rethink which circumstances you can still change, and which you can’t. And start acting, starting from the circumstances that can be changed by making some effort.

Act, don't wait

In any adverse situation, you need to act as actively as possible. To turn them into better side need to make decisions. Do not hope and wait until the problem goes away by itself.

Find ways of self-development and self-knowledge

It happens that in this process people learn a lot about themselves. They realize that they have grown spiritually on the way out of some difficult life situation. And after the hardships experienced, they gained self-confidence, their attitude towards people and life in general changed. There was a change in outlook on life and a reassessment of values.

Look at yourself positively

Should be trusted personal experience and intuition in solving complex problems. You need to develop self-confidence.

be an optimist

It is necessary, in spite of everything, to try to maintain hope that the Good times. It is important to try to visualize what you are striving for, and not waste time thinking about your fears.

To take care

Pay attention to your feelings and needs, take part in activities that bring pleasure and relaxation. This affects the development of stress resistance. Exercises like meditation help a lot too. Physical exercise is also essential.

Help yourself to keep your mind clear and healthy body to always have strength to deal with stress.

Conclusion

Now you know how to develop at home. We have covered ten basic rules that will help you achieve the desired effect.

Modern life is extremely stressful. Perhaps because the rhythm has become more dynamic, perhaps people have become more ambitious and strive to be in time and achieve the maximum. To this, let's add ecology, food on the run, radiation from various kinds technology and much more. Unfortunately, the genetic code of mankind does not change as quickly as the environment, and the most vulnerable in such an environment is the human psyche.

Sometimes the tension reaches such a level that a person ceases to cope with it.

Sad statistics. Per last years, more than 12 people jumped out of the windows of Moscow State University. AT Bauman University over the past 20 years - about 30 young people. This usually happens during sessions.

Studies have shown that 64% of people are stressed at work, 56% of stress leads to bad sleep, 26% get sick due to stress.

About 17% of various allergic reactions occur against the background of stress or are exacerbated by it.

Knowing about such sad consequences of stress, we are simply forced to protect our psyche from overstrain. The defense of our psyche is commonly called stress resistance.

Stress tolerance- a person - the ability to overcome difficulties, suppress one's emotions, understand human moods, showing restraint and tact.
Stress resistance is determined by the totality personal qualities that allow a person to endure significant intellectual, volitional and emotional loads due to the characteristics professional activity, without any particular harmful effects on activities, others and their health.
Social Sciences Dictionary / Glossary.ru

• Stress resistance is the ability to navigate in an "emergency" situation.
• Stress resistance is the ability to repel excessive attacks on your psyche.
• Stress resistance is a clear separation of what is important to you, and what you can just fence off with a thick wall with the inscription "not available".
• Stress resistance is constant auto-training and work on the defensive abilities of your psyche and body as a whole.
• Stress resistance is taking care of yourself and your psychological comfort.

Benefits of Resilience

• Calm harmonious life. The peace within contributes to the peace around.
• physical health. Due to mental stability, we are less prone to neurosis, which means that one of the factors that adversely affects immunity is excluded.
• Creation, not destruction. When you are not overcome by depression, insomnia, hysterical states, physical ailments, you can direct your energy not to fight these backfire stress, but to create something new, important, meaningful or just pleasant. Awareness of one's own importance always gives self-confidence, which means it adds another brick to building a wall called stress resistance.
• positive vision of the world. Remember the cartoon "Once Upon a Time Oh and Ah"? It is about the fact that everyone has problems, the only question is how to treat them.

Manifestations of stress resistance in everyday life

The theory of stress resistance divides people into 4 groups:

• stress resistant. These are the people who are most prone to stress. The problem is that they do not know how to adapt to external events and are not inclined to change their behavior.
• stress trained. People who are ready for change, but not cardinal, calm. This is the type of people who agree only to gradual transformations, but a more assertive intervention can lead to depression and nervous breakdowns.
• Stress inhibitory. This is a type who is quite principled in his life positions and quite loyal to external changes. Unlike the previous type, he will rather agree to rapid changes than to a gradual transformation. At the same time, the peculiarity is that if stresses follow a long sequence, they significantly undermine people belonging to this type. They begin to lose their spirit and break into negative emotions.
• stress resistant. People who are most resistant to negative manifestations of the environment. Their psyche is protected from destruction.

How to develop stress resistance

Many characterize a person as stress-resistant if he only knows how not to throw out his negative emotions on others. This is a deep delusion. At this moment, a person may experience depression, depression, but be tactful and a good actor. In no case should you close the stress on yourself, otherwise it can destroy you from the inside. You always need to give vent to emotions, but only in a sublimated state.

We offer you several general advice to achieve stress tolerance.

• Take the stress test. For example, this one: http://www.psyportal.info/psypage/test210.shtml Make sure you know yourself well.
• Remember that Sleep and Rest are very important. The fact that sleep is the best medicine has not been canceled! You must give your body good rest both physical and moral.
• Find time for your favorite activity. Every person should have an outlet. What strengthens his faith in himself gives moral satisfaction and helps relieve stress.
• Raise the terminator in you. It is about the ability to recover from a destroyed state. Of course, such a physical rebirth is a distant future. But this model can be taken as the basis for the restoration of the psychological.
• If it's really hard do not hesitate to seek help from specialists. Even if you are used to “doing everything yourself”, you can always come in handy good advice professional. Moreover, not every one of us can be Baron Munchausen and periodically pull himself out by the hair.
• Develop your own methodology. Since the problem of stress resistance is one of the burning ones, there is a huge amount of literature on this topic. Do not be too lazy to go online and, having studied the problem, understand what is right for you.

Golden mean

Vulnerability

Stress tolerance

Indifference, complete lack of emotion

Winged expressions about stress resistance

It's not the stress itself that kills us, but our reaction to it. - Hans Selye - I decided to look at life as a holiday, not a cause for stress. - Martin Short - If the resulting stress is translated into a qualitative revision of your heart, then under a lot of husks you can find, in yourself, a real person. - Vladimir Borisov - Every person needs some kind of hobby supposedly to “get out of stress”, but you understand very well that in reality people are simply trying to survive and not go crazy. - Frederic Begbeder - Sharon Melnick / Stress tolerance. How to stay calm and efficient in any situation Translation of a book written by a professional business psychologist based on 10 years of research at Harvard, published in 2013 in the USA and received a 90% 5-star reader reviews on Amazon.com. Through vivid examples and simple and smart advice, the author will teach you how to take control of your life, save energy after a hard day at work and see an opportunity for success in every obstacle in your path. We recommend reading the second chapter of the book Control what is in your power: "the 50% rule" on the publisher's website. Shcherbatykh Yu.V. / Psychology of stress and methods of its correction This textbook discusses in detail the problems of the emergence and development of stress from a psychological, as well as biological and medical point of view. Methods for assessing stressful situations and the causes of their occurrence are given. Specific methods of stress optimization are recommended. Kadochnikov Alexey / Ready to fight! Stress resistance in hand-to-hand combat The book was published in the series "According to the system of special forces." The author talks in detail about the psychological preparation and development of stress resistance in dangerous situations. How to achieve a state of adaptation. Andrey Stegantsev / Stress management: systems approach The article is devoted to the stress management system: its main directions and stress management technologies. Here you will find a number of practical tasks and specific recommendations for the prevention and coping with stress.

General rules

Work a little, but every day, so that the virtues become "habits of the heart."

Don't strive for absolute perfection.

Never give up - remember: even the great ones fail.

Trust your intuition.

Avoid extremes. Strive for the golden mean between lack and excess of virtue.

Enjoy; work on your chosen program with humor and optimism.

No matter how insulting it may sound, but stress is the norm of our lives. But many do not know that stress is created by Mother Nature so that we adapt to instant changes, events taking place in environment. If you constantly get small portions of stress, then the level of adrenaline increases in the body, which is very useful. At these moments, an innate property is triggered - human stress resistance, that is, there are functions that prevent the effects of stress. It may vary from person to person. Some have an increased function, while others have a reduced function. It all depends on different kind factors. But there is an opportunity to develop stress tolerance. Before you start working on yourself, let's find out what is the characteristic of a stress-resistant person.

What a resilient person he is

Unfortunately, not all of them are like that, as we have already said, everything depends on a complex of factors. But to discern this quality in a person, that is, increased ability stress can be resisted.

1. Able to predict the situation. It means that he is ready both physically and mentally for stressful situations.
2. Can take on multiple tasks and complete them successfully. Thus, he can focus on the crisis and quickly resolve it by mobilizing all forces.
3. Has experience in overcoming stressful moments. Once he had already experienced difficult emotions and we can say that he “hardened”. Now he knows what this is fraught with, what can happen next and.
4. A special type of psyche and nervous system. There are character traits in which a person endures any difficulties, including stressful situations. His internal forces, as it were, redirect the influence of stress to the stimulation of certain qualities. For example, someone, very nervous, eats a lot, sings, composes poetry, music.
5. He has the motivation to endure stress. For some, such moments are a way to achieve something, to get moving.

To overcome stress, you need to fight it. However, the body has to resist the changes that occur to a person and the world around him. And here the set of qualities that each of us has “acquired” over the past life is of tremendous importance.

If we have fundamental qualities, courage, wisdom, willpower, then we can more easily look at it, as it were, from the other side. All this can be brought up in your character, the main thing is to have a desire, and this is already half the battle. If you add to everything the ability to keep everything under control, an understanding of how a certain process can end, then everything will be in order. That is, we need to cultivate in ourselves that very stress resistance, consisting of various factors.

How to develop resilience to stress

Someone from the wise said that you should not be afraid of stress, because this phenomenon does not visit only dead people. You just need to learn how to manage it, manage your emotions. And stress will become a very normal and manageable moment in our lives.

When we hear that this or that person has an increased resistance to stress, we understand that he knows how to keep his emotions "in hand". But not only that, a person is able to control them, that's what can generally be called a talent for self-control. Is it difficult to cultivate such qualities in oneself? No, you just need to want and try. But to understand how we can deal with stress right now, let's pass the test, as if we analyze the situation at the start of work.

Below are the phrases, the choice of which corresponds to a certain number. Then we summarize and find out what we are like in the fight against stress. If you perceive the following situation as stress in rare cases, give yourself a 1 point, often - 2 points, and constantly - put 3 points. So, let's begin.

1. You are late for your plane, train.
2. Management calls on the "carpet".
3. You have been instructed to do new work.
4. There was a fight with a close friend.
5. Financial difficulties arose.
6. It seems to you that you are not fulfilling your obligations, your work.
7. You feel that the disease begins.
8. Behind your back, your work colleagues, friends, neighbors talk bad about you.
9. We witnessed a terrible car accident with victims and mangled cars.
10. During urgent work, you are distracted.
11. Broken TV, computer.
12. A friend, husband (wife) was fired from work.
13. You are in a situation of time pressure.
14. There was competition at work, in school and in personal life.
15. You don't sleep well, you suffer from insomnia.
16. You have an evening planned, a weekend, and your boss asks you to go overtime.
17. We witnessed a conflict in the store where we ran after work.
18. A loved one has betrayed you.

Now, after giving the answers, calculate your points. Up to 36 points - you are a person who can resist stress. Only out of the ordinary, exceptional moments can knock you out of your normal state. You have excellent intuition, excellent control over your behavior. Wisely use willpower, be careful, do not worry about trifles.

From 22 to 44 points - are you nervous too often? Although, there are times when you can pull yourself together. Therefore, it is necessary to foresee in advance that the accumulated problems can explode like a volcano.

From 45 to 54 points - you often panic. Stress rules your life, and for all sorts of trifles. Stop and take a break. Think about it, is it worth it to be so upset, worried and worried about other people's bleating? Yes, and their own, too, are not so terrible to suffer like that. You have a minimum threshold of resistance to stress. You should work on yourself!

What does it mean - stress resistance

To begin with, let's get acquainted with the decoding of the term by psychologists. According to them, stress resistance is the ability to competently, without tantrums and fear, to respond to unforeseen, foreseen situations and the ability to control negative types of emotions, formed by someone or independently. There are several types of people in psychology who have stress tolerance.

1. stress resistant- can hardly endure problems, and even trifling situations. They are not able to adapt to the newly created circumstances and at the first occasion they get irritated and nervous. These include psychologically unrestrained, inflexible persons who immediately panic.
2. stress trained – given type maybe he is ready for minor stresses and calmly experiences them, but if the blow is intensified, that is, the stress is more powerful, the person becomes limp. People cannot make decisions, they are very nervous, they are afraid to take responsibility.
3. Stress inhibitory- react to situations more calmly, but the reason for this is not work on themselves, but a phlegmatic type of character. In general, everything is “on the drum” for such people, they treat everything indifferently, coldly. Only powerful stress can affect their condition and lead to depression.
4. stress resistant- this type is characterized by an excellent protective function of the psyche and they react better than others to various acute situations. For some, an excellent quality can be innate, for others it can be the result of training and self-improvement.

What are the Benefits of Stress Resilient Faces?

We cannot live our lives without stress. And if you are a sociable, sociable person, work surrounded by people, then it is really simply impossible to avoid them. Otherwise, you need to close yourself within four walls and not let anyone in. We hasten to disappoint, even in this case, you can be stressed, for example, if you have an illness, you remember the bad. In short, it's easier to fight than to avoid!

1. Persons with a high threshold of resistance to stress have a lot of advantages in such situations. They, as a rule, have excellent health - everyone knows that you are less nervous, which means you live longer. After all, problems with the body most often occur against the background of nervous experiences, depression, stress. As a result, there are troubles with the gastrointestinal tract, the state of the heart, blood vessels, kidneys, and liver. In addition, the quality of sexual life is deteriorating by an order of magnitude.
2. Stress-resistant live in peace. They perceive the ups and downs of life wisely, realizing that everything in life passes, and this too will pass. It makes no sense to react irritably to various trifles, trifles. Thanks to this quality, a person calmly, without problems, fulfills his functional obligations. Does not create problems in family, work relationships.
3. The world is getting better. Realizing that stress is a moment that comes and goes, a person does not stop admiring the world, enjoying his life. If, on the other hand, you react painfully to everything, you are afraid of everything, worry, get upset, and be stressed, then the world turns into gray, black colors. Cats scratch at the heart. A person falls into depression, and every new day he perceives as another portion of trouble. They are not able to breathe deeply, they are afraid to take new steps, to make new acquaintances.

Studies have been conducted on how stress affects human health. It turned out that more than 60% of people who are stressed at the workplace suffer from allergic reactions, more than 50% cannot sleep normally, their sleep is disturbed, about 25% suffer from somatic types of diseases.

You need to understand that a smart and sensitive person will always face stress. If this is a “thick-skinned”, phlegmatic type, for whom there is nothing valuable and sacred, then stress will be nothing to him. But these are features of the psyche, few people have them, and, thank God! We know that our readers are intellectually developed people who need to learn how to control their emotions. And treat stress wisely, with restraint and manage it.

Why is it important to develop resilience to stress?

The famous psychologist Selye noted that there are two types of stress - negative and positive.

1. Negative - can destroy the human psyche.
2. Positive - can excite, disturb, but do not affect the state of our psyche.

Consider concrete examples positive and negative stress. You decide to go skydiving. There is no denying that this is a very stressful situation. But it is positive, because it does not destroy your psyche, you yourself want to get a portion of adrenaline.

Negative - news of death loved one whom he loved, cherished him, could not imagine his life without him. This type stress is also dangerous because it has long Negative consequences. As a result, the psyche will collapse, there will be a moment of despair, hopelessness, a dead end.

As we already know, small doses of stress are good for our body. After all, we get a kind of “shake-up”, an incentive for decisive further action. After this, we seem to “wake up”, “wake up” from sleep. And this is understandable, a little more adrenaline enters our blood - a hormone that does not allow a person to constantly sleep.

What are the benefits of stress

We understand that a person who knows how to withstand stress is confident in himself, he is ready for any development of the course of events. In any case, in difficult and acute moments, he is able to pull himself together and control his emotions. Such people are not subject to tantrums, nervous breakdowns. And what is remarkable, many of us do not know how strong qualities possess. On the contrary, we consider ourselves weak and lax.

Here is very interesting example from real life. This story was told to me by a work colleague. From childhood, she was friends with a certain Larisa Ivanova. She grew up as a beautiful but sickly girl. Constantly she had to skip school because of hospitals, boarding houses, sanatoriums. But by the age of majority, the body gained strength, and Laura became a very beautiful girl.

Tried to enter - did not pass the competition. But she did not worry and went to work. There she met a man, got married, had a child. While everything is like with people. But after about 3 years, she noticed that her husband comes home in a strange state. Then he decided to quit, and did not want to get a job again. And at some point it became clear - he became a drug addict.

Larisa fought with this disaster for several years, but his parents did not react at all. Instead of scolding their son, they kept giving him gifts. Our heroine could not stand it and left. It was difficult for her with a small child, but nothing, she lived quietly. She opened her own business, took loans and became successful.

After about 6 years, she already had an excellent reputation in her area. But in the same area, another businessman decided to open his own, but the same business. To get his rival out of the way, he simply pointed the tax police at her, who in a strange way discovered a disc with pirated copies. In one of the computers, again in a strange way, there were films of a pornographic nature, with scenes of violence.

You know, it's a real crime. Larisa understood that this was a natural "setup", but she could not prove the opposite. In short, representatives of law enforcement agencies have done their "dirty" work. Larisa had to close down and go to the office of a brazen and cunning investigator for several years on a summons. Then there was a trial, and she was sentenced to 2 years probation and a large fine.

But we said that our unfortunate heroine had loans, in her arms a child who studied in the middle classes. How to be? She was in complete despair. Even the moment came when Lara began to drink. And it is understandable, everyone reacts to stress in their own way. But Larisa found strength from somewhere and decided to fight the troubles. What she did was to sell her apartment, buy a house in a small town, and already there she opened exactly the same business.

At first it was hard, but slowly more and more new clients began to appear. Her services were used by small firms, then large ones. Finally, she got to her feet. So, without expecting anything from herself, our Laura handled the stress and won.

So what gives us resistance to stress? Yes all! Even hiring according to modern methods is carried out with the study of a person's stress resistance. He needs to pass a certain test, such as the one we presented above. After all, the leaders of companies need such employees. They will bring the matter to the end in any situation, because they can mobilize, not waste their energy and make the necessary decisions in critical moments. If you want to have a good place work, respect for people and a life filled with positive, learn to manage your emotions.

How to deal with stress

Many psychologists have found an interesting association for people with stress tolerance. They have been compared to the Phoenix bird, which always rises from the ashes. You understand that specialists cannot deceive, they know what they are talking about. Let us also become the very bird that is able to recover from any difficult situations.

1. Be a professional in your field. The higher your level of knowledge and experience, the less problems with an underestimation of self-confidence. But a person who knows his business will not worry, get upset, get annoyed and expect bad things from his own actions. He is confident!
2. Be patient. In any situation, you need to remain calm and not try to do everything at once, lose your calm. Be patient and do not rush to solve problems at once. Sit down, think, take 10 deep breaths in and out. Do not join those who spoil the "general atmosphere", be smarter, weigh every expression.
3. Treat everyone with respect, no matter the situation. Remember once and for all - there are no people without flaws, because perfection does not exist. Accept the environment as it is, do not try to re-educate everyone. Consider all this in raising a restrained character.
4. Do not forget about yourself, constantly pay attention to your body, body. Be active. Run, swim, do walking, yoga, shaping. Very helpful to get good health and self-confidence walking, light walks on fresh air at home, in the park, in the square. Go to the bath, get healthy.
5. Find time to relax - go out of town, to the river, to the forest. Spend time there with loved ones and loved ones - relatives, friends.
6. Enjoy life, enjoy every day. Don't give in negative emotions, they surround us everywhere and constantly.
   

   It is important to be able to relax. Learn the Technique correct breathing, meditation. There are a lot of such practices on the Internet, you can set aside one hour every day for a Kundalini yoga class. 7 Chakras for a week, allowing you to gain health and strengthen your inner spirit. Right now, we offer a simple exercise: as soon as a stressful situation arises, start breathing correctly - 10 deep breaths and exhalations. When inhaling, count to 6 and hold your breath, then exhale, count to 6 and hold again. So repeat 10 times.

7. If you have bad habits - drinking alcohol, smoking cigarettes - give them up. It is impossible to talk about the stress resistance of a person addicted to stupidity. In addition, alcohol, nicotine from tobacco, harmful impurities negatively affect the human psyche. As a result, he becomes angry, irritable, hysterical.
8. To avoid stress, it is necessary to properly, responsibly treat your obligations and not create conditions for the emergence of acute moments.
9. Set up only good contacts with colleagues at work and at any time they will come to your aid.
10. Please don't take work home. Rest, because you have been fiddling with these pieces of paper, reports all day. Let your eyes and brain rest.
11. During the work process in the office, try to distract yourself for 5-10 minutes every 40 minutes. Read interesting anecdotes, chat with colleagues, drink a cup of coffee.
12. Be sure to get involved in something other than work, this will allow you to switch and “dilute” your attention. Let it be what you like best - hunting, fishing, skiing, games, knitting, embroidery, cooking.
13. Learn to analyze every situation that has already happened. Think about why it arose, what caused it. So, you will know what actions should not be done, and what words should not be spoken. Stress is easier to anticipate than to deal with later.

Don't be afraid of stress, let it be afraid of you! Look trouble straight in the face. And don't worry, everything will be fine as long as you don't panic. And you will not start, because we have taught you how to easily and without harm to health to resist stress and become a stress-resistant person!

All for now.
Sincerely, Vyacheslav.