I think other people’s thoughts very easily become your own if you perceive and process them. Conclusion: read the greats and your thinking will be elevated!

Loneliness is conditioned not by the absence of people around, but by the inability to talk with people about what seems important to you, or the unacceptability of your views for others.

Carl Gustav Jung

The problem of “being unloved” quite often turns into a problem of one’s own dislike.

Irwin Yalom

If I love another person, I feel oneness with him, but with him as he is, and not as I would like him to be, as a means to my ends.

Erich Fromm

Psychotherapists are people who have learned better than others to get along with their madness.

Carl Whitaker

Where there is Intimacy, there are no Games.

Eric Bern

People sometimes say about a person, “He hasn’t found himself yet.” But they don’t find themselves, they create them.

Thomas Szasz

Numerous problems arise when we try to meet others' expectations instead of defining our own.

Carl Rogers

By trying to be ourselves, we alienate many people, and by trying to give in to the desires of others, we alienate ourselves.

Clarissa Estes

Most of what is real within us is not realized, and most of what is realized is unreal.

Sigmund Freud

The world is simply ideal, so there is no need to improve it, all your efforts are in vain. Leave the world alone, after all, and take care of yourself in your spare time!

Nikolai Linde

Wish someone lucky to meet you and you will be lucky to meet someone.

Eric Bern

All our actions are based on two motives: the desire to become great and sexual attraction.

Sigmund Freud

Every normal person is actually only partly normal.

Sigmund Freud

Illusions attract us because they relieve pain and bring pleasure as a substitute. For this we must accept without complaint when, coming into conflict with a part of reality, illusions are shattered.

Sigmund Freud

Anyone who has only a hammer as a tool tends to look at any problem as if it were a nail.

Abraham Maslow

I very seriously object to the desire for perfection that some doctors and psychologists adhere to when working with people. I have never met a perfect human being and I do not expect to ever meet one. Perhaps it is precisely the imperfection that you are trying to take away from a person that gives him the charm that makes it possible to distinguish this individual and remember him.

Milton Erickson

No influence on a person can be more intrusive and predetermining than that which he is not aware of.

Otto Kernberg

These terrible crows - depression, despair and a feeling of uselessness - will always be somewhere nearby, right outside our window. No matter how consciously we want to get rid of them, they will come to us

come back again and again, and their hoarse croaks will interrupt our sleepy denial. Let's think of them as a constant reminder of the task before us. Even hearing their croaking, the noise of their wings, we still retain freedom of choice.

James Hollis

A person who feels loneliness experiences a unique experience of wandering and at the same time realizes his own inner essence with which he can enter into dialogue. Thanks to such dialogue, the individuation process begins.

James Hollis

We enter the world alone and we leave it alone.

Sigmund Freud

The task of making a person happy was not part of the plan for the creation of the world.

Sigmund Freud

In a certain sense, what we call happiness happens as a result of (preferably unforeseen) satisfaction long time pent up needs.

Sigmund Freud

To be truly intimate with another, we must truly listen to the other: let go of the stereotypes and expectations associated with the other, and allow ourselves to be shaped by the other's response.

Irwin Yalom

Relationships are unsuccessful when a person is partly with someone else, and partly with someone else fictitious.

Irwin Yalom

We are completely responsible for our lives, not only for our actions, but also for our inability to act.

Irwin Yalom

Love is, rather, a form of existence: not so much attraction as dedication, an attitude not so much towards one person, but towards the world as a whole.

Irwin Yalom

We are all lonely ships on a dark sea. We see the lights of other ships - we cannot reach them, but their presence and similar position to ours give us comfort.

Irwin Yalom

Life must be lived now; it cannot be put off endlessly.

Irwin Yalom

Life means nothing, not yet thinking man who could interpret her phenomena.

Carl Gustav Jung

Meeting yourself is one of the most unpleasant.

Carl Gustav Jung

The meeting of two personalities is similar to the contact of two chemicals: If there is even the slightest reaction, both elements change.

Carl Gustav Jung

Everything that irritates others can lead to understanding oneself.

Carl Gustav Jung

Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own soul.

Carl Gustav Jung

We often face despair that comes from the inability to make a choice or unwillingness to be ourselves; but the deepest despair comes when a person chooses “to not be himself, to be different.”

Carl Rogers

A person can go beyond his own limits only by relying on his own true nature, and not on ambitions and artificial goals.

Frederick Perls

Awareness of the present without running into the past or future leads to psychological growth. Experience the present in any at the moment is the only possible real experience, the condition for satisfaction and fullness of life, and consists in accepting this experience of the present with an open heart.

Frederick Perls

There is no worse lie than a misunderstood truth.

William James

When you need to make a choice, but you don’t make it, that’s also a choice.

William James

The art of being wise is knowing what to ignore.

William James

The greatest discovery of my generation is that a person can change his life by changing his attitude towards it.

William James

There is a definition that says that meanings and values ​​are nothing more than reactive formations and defense mechanisms. As for me, I would not want to live for my reactive formations, much less die for my defense mechanisms.

Victor Fraknl

Happiness is like a butterfly. The more you catch it, the more it escapes. But if you turn your attention to other things, It will come and sit quietly on your shoulder.

Victor Frankl

The desire to find the meaning of life is the main motivating force in a person... I am not afraid to say that in the world there is no more effective help for survival even in the most terrible conditions than the knowledge that your life has meaning.

Victor Frankl

Suffering's purpose is to protect a person from apathy, from spiritual rigor.

Victor Frankl

Let the one of you who is devoid of neurotic manifestations be the first to throw a stone at me, be he a theologian or a psychiatrist.

Victor Frankl

Not the least of the lessons that I was able to learn from Auschwitz and Dachau was that the best chances of survival even in such conditions extreme situation had, I would say, those who were directed to the future, to the work that awaited them, to the meaning that they wanted to realize.

Victor Frankl

How seductive is popular talk about self-realization and human self-realization! As if a person is intended only to satisfy his own needs or himself.

Victor Frankl

What matters is not our fears or our anxiety, but how we relate to them.

Victor Frankl

Life either has meaning, in which case meaning cannot disappear from anything that can happen. Either it does not make sense - but then this also does not depend on the events taking place.

Victor Frankl

Man has become a commodity and views his life as capital to be invested profitably. If he succeeds in this, then his life has meaning, and if not, he is a failure. His value is determined by demand, and not by his human merits: kindness, intelligence, artistic abilities.

Erich Fromm

The unfortunate fate of many people is a consequence of the choice they did not make. They are neither alive nor dead. Life turns out to be a burden, a pointless pursuit, and deeds are only a means of protection from the torments of existence in the kingdom of shadows.

Erich Fromm

Man’s task is to expand the space of his destiny, to strengthen what promotes life, as opposed to what leads to death. When talking about life and death, I do not mean a biological state, but the ways of being a person, his interaction with the world.

Erich Fromm

The main life task of a person is to give life to himself, to become what he potentially is. The most important fruit of his efforts is his own personality.

Erich Fromm

The main danger in life is being overly cautious.

Alfred Adler

Quotes from psychologists about human existence are quite entertaining. At all times, man has strived to find the meaning of life. Many people dedicated for many years in order to understand the true purpose of his stay on earth. To solve this difficult task, numerous asceticisms were carried out and various tests were arranged.

This is because man by nature is a researcher; he tends to seek the truth in everything. Quotes from psychologists about the meaning and essence of human existence make you think about a lot. For those people who want to live their best years meaningfully, they may be useful.

“The incomparable benefit is to spend your life on something that will remain for centuries” (W. James)

It is very important to give the right direction to your existence. You can’t just waste your days, striving for momentary pleasure. With this approach, it is impossible to achieve anything significant. We can experience the greatest value in our lives only when we put significant effort into doing something useful. Self-realization involves, first of all, taking responsibility. A person must think carefully about how to spend his best years, and only then can he achieve success. When we devote ourselves every day to our favorite activity, it seems meaningless and useless. Appeal to eternal values ​​radically changes the attitude towards reality.

“Changes in consciousness can change an entire life” (D. Carnegie)

The existence of every person is determined by his aspirations. Quotes from psychologists confirm the idea that we get exactly the result we strive for. Events and circumstances often develop as expected. It’s just that a person gets used to directing energy in a certain direction every day and therefore gets approximately the same result every time. Anyone who constantly complains about life, as a rule, does not develop, but stands still. The problem is that most people do not believe in themselves and do not see the opportunities that are near them. They get used to living, submitting to the monotonous stream of gray everyday life, and don’t even try to change anything.

Making meaningful changes in your thinking can really help you get rid of the overwhelming feeling of hopelessness. When habitual stereotypes are destroyed, a new understanding of the essence of life will come. Quotes from great psychologists in many cases are aimed at revealing this truth.

“Love cannot be measured by suffering, because a healthy feeling is happiness” (M. Labkovsky)

Many people confuse the state of falling in love with their own fears and concerns about unfulfilled desires. Most accept suffering to a specific person for love. However, this understanding has nothing to do with reality. Quotes from psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky are aimed at considering the essence of love as a state. If we suffer, it means we are moving away from our true self, we cannot express own feelings. You cannot dissolve in your partner precisely because in this case there is a high risk of losing yourself. People who truly feel happy in their relationships note that they do not accept false self-sacrifice.

Understanding love as inevitable suffering takes away our internal resources in advance and makes us doubt our own capabilities. In this case, the internal forces of the personality are buried under a multitude of uncontrollable experiences. Over time, the ability to actively influence own life. It seems that events happen by themselves, without any of our participation.

“If one person replaces the whole world for another, this means that one’s own personality is lost” (M. Labkovsky)

How often do people live only by the interests and needs of their partner, forgetting about their own! Quotes from psychologist Labkovsky reflect the problem of an individual accepting responsibility to himself. Few people put in the effort to realize their individual dreams. After all, constant self-sacrifice reduces the chances of effective self-realization. Integrity is a state that is achieved through tireless work on oneself.

Thus, quotes from psychologists about personality predetermination are of the greatest value. They reveal the essence of life itself because they help you focus on what matters most.

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  Don't imagine that your case is unusually difficult. Even those who eventually became the most eloquent representatives of their generation suffered from such unconscious fear and shyness at the beginning of their careers.

  
  Dale Carnegie
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  Everyone is firmly convinced of his own objectivity, and no one believes in someone else’s.

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  In psychosis, the world of fantasy plays the role of a storehouse, from which psychosis draws material or patterns for constructing a new reality.

  
  Sigmund Freud
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  In our dreams we always have one foot in childhood.

  
  Sigmund Freud
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  A dream is the guardian of sleep, not its violator.

  
  Sigmund Freud
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  If there is any secret to success here (in the art of relationships between people), then it lies in the ability to understand the point of view of another person and look at things from both his and your points of view.

  
  Henry Ford
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  A person has two motives for behavior - one real and the second, which sounds beautiful.

  
  Henry Ford
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  A psychologist is a person who looks at everyone else when beautiful girl enters the room.

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  The only normal people are those you don't know well.

  
  Alfred Adler
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  Separate the incident from the underlying problem. The problem is not behavior, but the inability to change the situation, having tears and mixed feelings.

  
  Gordon Neufeld
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  If a child experiencing irritation could not change the situation and could not cry tears of futility, could not go through the path from anger to grief, then the energy of frustration goes further, to the last mechanism of defense against aggression.

  
  Gordon Neufeld
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  Inviting an older child to depend on us means convincing the child that he can rely on us, count on us, can trust us with his problems and we will solve them, he expects our help. We seem to be telling the child that we are here for him and that it is okay if he needs us.

  
  Gordon Neufeld
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  The invitation to depend and the consent to depend is the choreography of two people who love and trust each other.

  
  Gordon Neufeld
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  The accusation that psychotherapy is missionary does not seem justified to me. It is strange to talk about the development of psychotherapy, while excluding expansion as a property of life. Psychotherapy in its current understanding arose as a proposal in response to a socio-cultural demand. But, having arisen, it - like any other area of ​​​​activity - cannot help but create demand. The logic within which the formation of demand for medicine is called education, and for psychotherapy - missionary, is the logic of biased subjectivity, a double standard.

  
  Victor Kagan
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  My task as a therapist is not to penetrate into the patient’s meanings and the reasons for their occurrence, but to create conditions in which the patient has the opportunity to live and experience these meanings himself more fully and differently, to change them so that, in some In cases, they ceased to generate or maintain symptoms, and in others they led to the optimization of coping strategies and the maintenance of quality of life with persistent symptoms.

  
  Victor Kagan
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  I have great doubts about the thesis about the need to subject psychotherapeutic techniques to “serious scientific analysis” - according to at least, as long as this analysis is associated with a “scientific worldview”, on the basis of which psychotherapeutic methods allegedly do not want to act, and until it is precisely defined what should constitute a “serious scientific analysis”, which they allegedly do not want be exposed Here it is appropriate to recall an anecdote: a private driver drives up to a person standing in a long line for a taxi: “Would you like a lift?” - “But you’re not a taxi” - “What do you need – checkers or driving?” Already become catchphrase: “I don’t know why it works, but it works” reflects the situation in psychotherapy much more accurately than the supposedly scientific “checkers”.

  
  Victor Kagan
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  Psychotherapy is often reproached for being represented by many closed sects with their own beliefs, their own “bird language”. Indeed, each of its directions forms its own theories, from which methods supposedly follow, although upon impartial examination it turns out that these theories themselves are mythologies, built on individual perceptions and empirical findings.

  
  Victor Kagan
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  In relation to psychotherapy, we can say that a person today lives in a culture of changes, not canons. This culture itself is devoid of previous psychoregulatory traditions that helped to cope with changes. And if scientific and industrial revolution XIX c., changing their lifestyles, they naturally relied on “scientific psychotherapy” with its laboratory nature and medicalization, today the emphasis is increasingly shifting from sciences to humanities.

  
  Victor Kagan
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  Psychotherapy is, first of all, a hypostasis of culture. I especially want to emphasize the non-replication nature of psychotherapy: just as in the theater each performance of the same play is unique - the same but not the same, in psychotherapy each session is unique even when using the same method or technique. Dialogue – and psychotherapy is a dialogue, not an influence – cannot be replicated.

  
  Victor Kagan
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  Term psychotherapy stands for various principles(secular, that is, secular) ethics and their application in practice. Thus, each method and each school of psychotherapy represents a system of applied ethics expressed in the idiom of treatment. Each of these methods and each of the schools bears the imprint of the personalities of their founders and adherents, their aspirations and values

“Tell me and I will forget. Show me and I will remember. Call me with you and I will understand.” Confucius

“Live neither in the past nor in the future, but devote all your energy to work every day so that it satisfies your wildest ambitions.” William Osler

“Nothing can prevent a person with a strong inner attitude from achieving his goals, just as nothing in the world can help a person with an incorrect inner attitude.” Thomas Jefferson

"How closer people to the truth, the more tolerant they are of other people’s errors.” L. N. Tolstoy

“Regret looks back, worry looks around, faith looks forward.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Don’t wait for some particularly favorable moment that will never come. Start where you are, using the tools at your disposal, and better tools will emerge as you go.” Napoleon Hill

“If a person confidently moves towards his dream, strives to live the life that he has drawn for himself, success will await him, which is difficult to expect in ordinary life». Henry David Thoreau

“Your providence will only become clear if you can look into your heart. He who looks outward dreams, he who looks inward awakens.” Carl Jung

“I go towards my destiny as if nothing else existed in the world right now.” Charles Kingsley

"It's bad when your fight ends in surrender, unless it's with a vending machine." Law R.K. Gallagher

“He waits, and all the best passes him by.” Thomas Edison

“A highly developed personality often encounters resistance in communication from mediocre minds.” Albert Einstein

“Mediocrity does not mean low intellectual ability; it only means a level of intelligence at which a person cannot stand those who are better and envy them.” Ayn Rand

“We move along our path only when we turn our faces to the goal, when we believe in ourselves, when we believe that we will overcome everything.” Orizon Swett Marden

“Few things in the world have the same power as positive encouragement. Smile. Expression of optimism and hope. The words “you can do this” when it’s especially difficult.” Richard M. Devos

“The main enemy of the best is the good. If you are ready to settle for good, you will never become the best.” Charles Kaiser

“The difference between people is small, but this small difference makes all the difference. The small difference is in the mood, the big difference is in its direction, positive or negative.” W. Clement Stone

“I realized that I could live my life in two ways: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams are not a matter of chance, but of choice. When I dream, I believe that I am replaying my future in my head.” David Copperfield

“There’s one funny thing about life: if you agree to accept only the best from it…. very often you will get the best.” Somerset Maugham

“Whatever you vividly imagine, desire passionately, truly believe in, and passionately work towards simply cannot fail to happen.” Paul Meyer

“Every obstacle, every failure and unpleasant experience contains within itself the seeds of an equivalent good and may turn out to be a gift of fate in disguise.” Napoleon Hill

“We do not choose each other by chance... We meet only those who already exist in our subconscious.” Sigmund Freud

“Joy comes into our lives when we have something to do; have someone to love; and there is something to hope for.” Victor Frankl

"Having specific goal“, a person feels able to overcome any problems, since his future success lives within him.” Alfred Adler

“We are what we have instilled about ourselves and what others have instilled in us about us.” Erich Fromm

“You can only truly understand what you try to change.” Kurt Lewin

“Every person has desires that he does not communicate to others, and desires that he does not even admit to himself.” Sigmund Freud

“The art of being wise is knowing what to ignore.” W. James

“By changing our thoughts, we can change our lives.” Dale Carnegie

“If a person can live not forcedly, not automatically, but spontaneously, then he realizes himself as an active creative personality and understands that life has only one meaning - life itself.” E. Fromm

“The presence of anxiety indicates vitality.” Rollo May

“After a period of happiness, joyful excitement and a sense of fullness of life, there will inevitably come a perception of what has been achieved for granted and anxiety, dissatisfaction and a desire for more will arise!” Abraham Maslow

“What matters is not our fears or our anxiety, but how we relate to them.” Victor Frankl

“Loneliness is not caused by the absence of people around, but by the inability to talk with people about what seems important to you, or the unacceptability of your views to others.” Carl Gustav Jung

“If I love another person, I feel one with him, but with him as he is, and not as I would like him to be, as a means to achieve my goals.” Erich Fromm

“People sometimes say about a person, “He hasn’t found himself yet.” But they don’t find themselves, they create themselves.” Thomas Szasz

“The world is simply ideal, so there is no need to improve it, all your efforts are in vain. Leave the world alone, after all, and take care of yourself in your spare time!” Nikolai Linde

“At the heart of all our actions are two motives: the desire to become great and the sexual desire.” “Every normal person is in fact only partly normal” Sigmund Freud

“The task of making man happy was not part of the plan for the creation of the world.” Sigmund Freud

“Meeting yourself is one of the most unpleasant.” Carl Gustav Jung

“Whatever irritates others can lead to self-understanding.” Carl Gustav Jung

“When you need to make a choice, and you don’t make it, that’s also a choice.” William James

“Happiness is like a butterfly. The more you catch it, the more it escapes. But if you shift your attention to other things, happiness will come and sit quietly on your shoulder.” Victor Frankl

“Suffering’s purpose is to protect a person from apathy, from spiritual rigor.” Victor Frankl